Registered psychotherapist Florence MacGregor believes that art is created as a response to grief and violence.
The former Humber theatre professor says grief comes in many forms, she said.
“A big aspect of the grieving process, which might be a long line, is this idea that we don’t feel like ourselves anymore, and that’s identity,” MacGregor said.
National Grief Awareness Week which runs Dec. 2 to Dec. 8 aims to provide a safe space for those who may be grieving a life transition or the loss of a loved one. It’s common, especially for students who are going through multiple life transitions to experience grief.
“We can grieve because we can grieve our childhood,” MacGregor said. “We go into our teenagehood and we can grieve when we were teenagers when we were kids. We can grieve in our 20s because we missed our teenagehood.
“The natural process of growing up means letting go, a big aspect of the grieving process,” she said.
Registered psychotherapist (qualifying) Florence MacGregor. Photo credit: Matthew Diamond
Humber College student Adriana Tait went through a similar transition with grief. Tait grieved transitioning as a person through Sheridan’s creative writing program and Humber’s media communications and journalism programs as she changed her mind about what she wanted to study.
“In high school, I knew I wanted to go into writing and then over time, I felt like I was being more and more in denial that that wasn’t really something that I was meant to do and that I wanted to do,” Tait said.
“I kind of felt like I owed it to my high school self to at least give it all that I got to make it into writing,” she said.
Tait said she evaluated where she was and where she wanted to go and realized she had been a lifeguard for six years, enjoys this field and is doing well in it, and is now enjoying studying Humber’s Recreation and Leisure Services diploma program.
“Being in a different program that is more removed from writing as the essential focus of my career, it kind of allows me to have that space where I can do what I enjoy at work while also maintaining that space of writing where I can be more passionate and individual with it,” she said.
MacGregor said grief is often about learning to take the best of what life has to offer and discard the worst situations to become who we are meant to be.
“Going through adversity can make you a stronger person,” MacGregor said. “It can make you a hero for other people.”
Michelle Garibay, a college student at George Brown College, carries the grief of not belonging as a newcomer to Canada.
“Sometimes I still get that feeling, but at the beginning I remember when I went into any bus or streetcar, I was looking at the people and I was like, oh my God, I feel like a complete outsider, like, I don’t belong here,” Garibay said.
“I didn’t feel a part of the life here and sometimes, I feel like I don’t belong here,” she said.
MacGregor said it’s normal for students transitioning to new surroundings to experience grief.
“Until you get used to this new life, there can be a lot of grief around—like leaving the house, leaving the home, leaving your family of origin, living on your own, there’s a lot of grief,” she said.
MacGregor’s solution for grief is to have an outlet for it, instead of avoiding it. The former Humber College theatre instructor says that theatre gave her that safe space.
“It took me many years, like really birthing again who I was within the confines of the theatre and telling these extraordinary stories and just knowing from a very young age I’m a storyteller,” MacGregor said.
“[Grief] is a process,” she said. “It’s still really much like a never-ending thing. We carry our grief with us as we move forward.”